April is Cesarean Awareness Month.
I wanted to spend some time dedicating this blog to all the Cesarean moms out there who do not feel seen and they often hear they somewhat failed birth.
It took me a while to stop cringing at the idea that I
would have a whole month to talk about what I feared most about my own
birth experiences, but here I am with 3 out of 4 Cesarean Births under
my belt (no pun intended) and I realize that there is so much work to do
to erase the stigma and shame Cesarean mothers bring home from the
Some mothers feel like they had missed out because their baby is delivered to them and they end up having to take a ‘passive’ role in the birth process.
Some feel that it is a crime to not being able to be the first person to hold your own baby, while a complete stranger has not only just opened your core wide, but has also the privilege to see your baby first.
The idyllic picture we had created in our own mind of birthing as smoothly as mama deer to her baby Bambi, gets crumbled into pieces and replaced by weeks of painful physical and emotional recovery.
But we have to remember that this is not what birth is about. And anyone who has promised you something different is cruel and ignorant.
Birth is about being flexible. Staying open minded. Learning to let go of our ego and prioritizing the best for our baby. No matter how painful it might feel.
Ultimately this is what parenting is all about. We, Cesarean moms learn this lesson in a rush of adrenaline and blood. But we are fast learners and gain the wisdom of motherhood even before meeting our babies.
I had grand plans for my offerings, but life is hilarious sometimes and my experience has become a safe landing for other mothers who feel unsupported and forgotten by the birth community.
If this is one of you, please reach out. My heart and arms are wide
open for you.
For inquiries about my availability please reach out here